Being a father (or a parent in general) is not easy. It is a 24/7, 365 day a year job that does not stop when your child turns eighteen. It is an entire lifestyle change that forever changes everything about your world.
Up until a few years ago, journalist and blogger Josh Levs did not know what to expect when he became a father. After being denied time off after the birth of his child, Mr. Levs fought back for time off and won. In his new book, All In: How Our Work-First Culture Fails Dads, Families, and Businesses–And How We Can Fix It Together, Mr. Levs examines what it is to be a modern father.
The book’s main focus is that despite the change in society regarding a father’s role in the life of his family and his children, the rigid gender roles remain. Mr. Levs is not the only father who, despite his need and want to be home with his child, he was expected to leave the child rearing to his wife. He also explores issues of the image on fathers on television, how not having a father affects children and how the legal system, in many cases favors mothers when it comes to divorce and custodial cases.
I found this book to be very interesting. Fatherhood has obviously evolved over the decades, especially in the wake of the feminist revolution. Many fathers have taken on the responsibilities that were once only the domain of women or have taken jobs that allow them to be home with their children. Ultimately, what I was reminded of when I finished the book is that permanently smashing gender norms is not just a burden put on the shoulders of women. It is also up to the men in our lives to take a stand, especially when it comes their children.
I absolutely recommend it.