Life is short. We never know when it is going to end. If we are lucky, we will have the opportunity to live to a very old age.
Anton Yelchin will never know what it is like to grow old. He died today in freak car accident. He was only 27 years old.
While I am not a fan of his work, I was aware of who he was an actor. His life and career were only getting started.
Here today, gone tomorrow.
May his memory be a blessing to those who knew him and loved him.
Sometimes in life, we need a reminder that life is short and precious. Especially when one is dealing with depression and anxiety.
When a depressed person is at their lowest, death seems like the simplest solution. It is only way to quiet the demons that keep us from living a fulfilling life.
But death is not the answer, life is. We just need to find the courage to not let the demons lead us down the path to the grave.
That courage, unfortunately, may only come to us when we are reminded that life is short and too precious to be wasted by depression and anxiety.
RIP Anton Yelchin.
Today is Father’s Day. I can’t think of a better song to honor my wonderful father than Yellowcard’s Life Of A Salesman.
Without my father, I would be a very different woman.
Happy Father’s Day, Daddy, I love you very much.
Whitney Way Thore is a reality TV Star. Her life is chronicled in the TLC series My Big Fat Fabulous Life. Whitney, like many American women is not a size 2. She is far from it and not ashamed of her weight.
Earlier this year, she published a memoir entitled I Do It with the Lights On: And 10 More Discoveries on the Road to a Blissfully Shame-Free Life. Taking the reader through her life, Whitney chronicles what it is to be a big girl in a society where people of a certain size, especially women are often ostracized or mocked. She speaks openly of the pressure to be thin, the comments she has received about her weight, both good and bad and most importantly her journey to loving herself, regardless of her weight.
What I found compelling about her memoir was that I found myself relating to her. I am not heavy, but I understand what it is to struggle with self-esteem and the desire to fit in with the rest of the world. Another aspect of the book that appealed to me was that she addressed the fact that women (more often than men) are judged by their looks and women who are above a certain size, receive a certain kind of judgement.
Do I recommend it? While I found the book to be an excellent read and a reminder that many of us struggle with our self-esteem, I found several chapters to be a bit boring and a bit slow. The answer is maybe, leaning toward yes.
For many film fans, Bruce Lee is an icon. He is iconic not only for changing the way Asians are portrayed on-screen, but for creating the martial arts action genre as modern audiences know it to be.
In 1993, Dragon: The Bruce Lee Story hit theaters.
Raised in Hong Kong, Bruce Lee (Jason Scott Lee) is advised to leave his childhood home to get away from the demons that are forever nipping at his heels. Needing to make a living, he opens a martial arts school in the United States that slowly gains attention and grows to include students of all backgrounds. Among the students is his Caucasian girlfriend/future wife Linda (Lauren Holly).
Then Hollywood beckons. Between his role as Kato in The Green Hornet (1966-1967) on television and the films The Big Boss (1971) and Enter The Dragon (1973), Bruce is now a major player in the entertainment industry. He is also happily married to Linda and a parent twice over. But the demons from his past are never far away.
As biopics go, this film is not bad. Stepping out of the spotlight of an icon, Bruce Lee is presented as a human being, who like all of us, has both positive and negative traits.
Do I recommend it? Yes.
It is often said that you can never truly understand another person until you walk in their shoes. Or perhaps, if you cannot walk in a mile in their shoes, perhaps reading their thoughts might be a good place to start.
In the 2000 romantic comedy, What Women Want, Nick Marshall (Mel Gibson) can be described in one word: sexist. Then, somehow, a fluke accident allows Nick to hear the internal thoughts of the women around him. At first, Nick believes himself to be cursed. But, then he is convinced that it is actually a blessing in disguise.
Perturbed that he lost a major promotion to Darcy Maguire (Helen Hunt), Nick decided to take advantage of his new abilities. The plan is to get back at Darcy by using her thoughts against her, but when the relationship begins to turn from professional to romantic, Nick may want to re-think his plan.
While the idea for the plot is interesting, it is just another romantic comedy. It’s not the best within the genre, but it is not the worst either.
Do I recommend it? I say maybe, but someone else may say yes.
Last week, women in America both cheered and were reminded once more of how far we need to go.
The ultimate glass ceiling was broken when Hillary Clinton clinched the nomination for the Democratic nomination. Somewhere in heaven Alice Paul, Eleanor Roosevelt, Susan B. Anthony and Betty Friedan are cheering.
While I was not persuaded to vote for Bernie Sanders, I admired his gutsy approach to government if he won the election. The reason many Americans (myself included) feel frustrated with the government and the general voting process is that it feels more like a secret smoky backroom deal rather than a government of the people, by the people, for the people. He wanted the average Joe or Jane on the street to feel like they truly had a say in how their country was being run. For that, I thank Bernie Sanders and I hope Hillary will take that with her as she battles towards November.
Then the news of the Stanford rape broke and it felt like one step forward, two steps back. The fact that Brock Turner received a much lighter sentence that maximum 14 years in prison is a cold slap in the face that while we have female presidential nominee, women are still thought to be mindless sex objects.
The fight continues.
Today is Anne Frank’s birthday. One of the millions of Jewish children that were murdered in the Holocaust because they were Jewish, her legacy is that of hope, love and our shared humanity.
Last week I had a very interesting conversation.
I was talking to a friend from my martial arts school who is Muslim and in the middle of celebrating Ramadan. We were comparing the differences between Ramadan and Yom Kippur. While there are some differences between the two holidays, there are is one major similarity: devotion to G-d. Both holidays require fasting, which as anyone who has fasted can tell you it is not easy. What comes with the fasting is believing in and praying to a higher being who I believe is akin to a third parent. While our religious practices and beliefs differ, we still believe in a higher power and we still follow the same ancient traditions that our families have practiced for thousands of years. We were able to have a conversation about our individual religions that was just that.
And now to the reason for this post: the horrific shooting at the nightclub in Orlando. We are all G-d’s children, made in the image of our creator. The only reason the patrons of this nightclub were targeted is because they are gay. My heart breaks for everyone involved. This is not the America that I know, love and believe in. Today I pray for the victims and their families. I also pray for America, that we should learn from this tragedy and get over the b*llsh*t that says we are different due to an accident of birth. We are all human beings and deserve the same respect.
Thank you Todrick Hall for creating a brilliant mashup and making me feel old.
Life is full of joy, laughter and opportunity, if we can only open our eyes to see it.
In the new movie, Me Before You, (based on the book of the same name), Louisa “Lou” Clark (Emilia Clarke) has just lost her job at a local bakery. Known for her colorful, quirky clothes and her outgoing demeanor, the income Lou earns goes back to her family. Needing a job, Lou is hired to care for Will Traynor (Sam Claflin), a quadriplegic man whose life was turned upside down when he is injured in a motorcycle accident.
Moody and depressed, Will relies on his parents, Camilla and Stephen (Janet McTeer and Charles Dance) and his nurse, Nathan (Stephen Peacocke) to provide emotional and physical support.
Enter Lou, whose bright and bubbly personality does not initially go over well with snarky and sarcastic Will. What starts off as a mere job becomes something more as the relationship between Lou and Will changes. But the reality of Will’s life and his disability may prevent this relationship from getting off the ground before it has begun.
While I normally have a severe dislike for films that pile on the not so subtle message or the uber-romantic schmaltz, I was pleasantly surprised by this film. The actors were well-chosen for their roles (and as an anglophile, I was pleasantly surprised to see to the cast list). But what I enjoyed the most was the message to not only appreciate life, but to take full advantage of everything life has to offer while we can.
I recommend it.
Me Before You is presently in theaters.
Any good love story contains a barrier to the couple’s potential happiness. Sometimes that barrier is that one of the potential lovers is dead.
In the 1947 romantic drama The Ghost and Mrs. Muir, Lucy Muir (Gene Tierney) is a widow. Not wanting to live with her late husband’s overbearing parents, Lucy moves to a seaside cottage with her young daughter and a servant. What appears to be an empty cottage not actually empty. What Lucy does not know that the rental agent knows is that the cottage has a resident: it’s deceased former owner, Captain Daniel Gregg (Rex Harrison).
Captain Gregg initially wants to use his less than corporeal state to scare away the new tenant. But Mrs. Muir is made of stronger stuff than the Captain anticipates. Soon they develop a friendship, but with one caveat. Mrs. Muir’s daughter must not know of the cottage’s fourth resident. That friendship turns to something more as Mrs. Muir is a pretty young widow who is not immune to catching the eyes of other men and the Captain is not really liking that….
I happen to like this movie. It is romantic and sweet without plying on the schmaltz.
Do I recommend it? Yes.