It can be said that one cannot understand another until they walk a mile in another’s shoes.
Especially when it comes to depression.
I could describe how it feels to live with depression, but I think the video below basically says it all.
It’s a cold, lonely feeling that never ceases to go away, akin to sitting in a empty bathtub, shivering cold with no clothes on, without light or heat.
It is the saddest, scariest feeling anyone can experience. Millions of us suffer from it and too many die from it. I think the most important thing to remember is that we are not alone. If we remember that, then we can somehow find a way not just to live, but to thrive.
Imagine this: you are a young man brought to America by your parents looking for a better life. Your parents might not have thought through the legal side of emigration, but they were thinking of your future. Decades pass and you are living a normal life. Marriage, kids, working, not causing trouble with the law, paying your taxes on time, etc. Then you are forced to leave America for a country you may not remember and have to leave your family behind.
This is the story of Jorge Garcia. Yesterday, on Martin Luther King Jr. Day, Mr. Garcia was forced to return to Mexico. Despite the fact that his wife and children are American citizens, he will not be allowed to return to the country for ten years. Unfortunately, he is too old to quality for DACA.
This is the type of story that makes my blood boil. This man does not even have a parking ticket to his name. His only crime is being brought to America as a child. There many thousands of men and women who have similar tales to Mr. Garcia. They might not have been born here and their parents might have skirted the immigration rules, but for all intents and purposes, they are Americans. They are in school, they are working, they are raising American children. They are contributing to our country. I see no reason to force them out of the only country they call home. It is inhumane, indecent and goes against everything that America stands for.
Anyone who has children will tell you that being a parent is not easy.
Rabbi Susan Silverman (oldest sister of comedian and actress Sarah Silverman) should know. The mother of five (three natural daughters and two adopted sons) chronicles her life as a mother in her 2016 memoir, Casting Lots: Creating a Family in a Beautiful, Broken World. Born into a family that was culturally Jewish, but not practicing, she was raised as an atheist. As an adult, she became more religious and chose to make her living as a Rabbi. She also knew that she wanted adopt, in addition to have children the traditional way. The book is not just about parenting, but also about faith and dealing with everything that life brings.
I really enjoyed this book. I enjoyed it because I think everyone can relate to her journey, regardless of whether or not we have children. There is a normalcy to her story that makes the reader feel like they can sit down with Rabbi Silverman and have a conversation with her, even if they don’t know her.