My Unorthodox Life Review

Walking away from the family we were raised in and the world that we have known our entire lives is not easy. In the world of Orthodox Judaism, the term is called “off the derech“.

The new Netflix reality show, My Unorthodox Life, follows the life of former Orthodox Jew and businesswoman Julia Haart. Living in New York City with her second husband and three of her four children, the viewer is introduced to the tug of war between Haart’s previous life in Monsey and her current day to day life.

After watching a few episodes, I can understand why some Orthodox Jewish women are annoyed by how their community is portrayed, I think the viewer has to take into account that this is Haart’s perspective. I like the mental health aspect of the series, addressing how many women in conservative or fundamentalist may feel trapped by the constraints of their gender and the rules of their gender. I also liked how positively Judaism is portrayed. Though Haart is no longer Orthodox, she is still Jewish and not afraid to be open about it. It is educational without hitting the audience over the head.

It has the gloss of a Bravo reality show, but it is slightly less trashy and not as much of a brain drain as other programs in the genre.

Do I recommend it? Yes.

My Unorthodox Life is available for streaming on Netflix.


Author: Writergurlny

I am Brooklyn, NY born and raised writer who needs writing to find sanity in an insane world. To quote Charlotte Bronte: “I'm just going to write because I cannot help it.”

2 thoughts on “My Unorthodox Life Review”

  1. I’m very familiar with modern orthodoxy as well as the ulta-orthodox. After watching 2 episodes of this very manufactured “reality” show, I cringed. There is no reflection, thought, or nuances. This woman has an electric persobality and a big axe to grind. Unfortunately, the show offers little insight into the conflicts, consequences, and pain of leaving such a community brings. Instead it just leaps into black/white, good/bad. I know it’s not a documentary, but the one-sided pronouncements about the treatment of women seem, not only exaggerated, but no misconstrued. Yes, that may be her reality but she is showing the same black and white thinking as the tribe she tried to escape. To watch her disparage her 14 year old son’s beliefs was painful. As an adult, she has the right to her own journey, but not the right to impose it on her son.


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