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A Passover Challah is a Big No-No

Diversity, as we all know, is a huge thing these days. But diversity for diversity’s sake is meaningless and empty. The only way it works is if we truly understand why a certain culture or faith has certain practices.

Over the weekend, Jews around the world recounted the story of the Exodus via the holiday of Passover. Carly Friesen, a Christian Lifestyle coach, decided to have a “Christian Seder“. The meal was completed by “Passover Challah” and a prayer to the Christian Savior.

If there was ever a definition of cultural appropriation, this is it. Anyone who has any basic knowledge of Passover knows that bread, pasta, and other foods in that category are verboten during the eight days. She could have made a genuine gesture by at least trying to adhere to the traditional food rules of the holiday. The amount of resources she could have pulled information from is nearly endless.

Instead, she took some of the most precious and respected aspects of Judaism and this week and twisted them to fit her needs. It is not exactly a secret that some members of the Christian faith have not exactly been shy about taking everything, including our lives, from Jews at certain points in history. It’s 2021. It’s time to think about how we treat minority cultures and people, especially when it comes to their most sacred objects and traditions.

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I’ve Been Working From Home For a Year

The first anniversary of Covid-19 is is one we will never forget.

March 11th, 2020 was the last time I was in the office. I took off for a long weekend and was not sure what the next Monday would bring. Returning home that Sunday, I saw an email from my company’s CEO that we had the option to work from home. I could have gone back to the office, but the signs were all pointing to working remotely, at least for the time being.

If there was a way to tell my past self that any and all interactions for the next year with my colleagues would be via the computer, I wouldn’t have believed it. I would have said maybe it would have been a month, maybe two. But not a year.

I am more than grateful to be employed with full benefits. The fact that I am able to earn my paycheck while staying safe is increases that feeling ten fold. But not everyone is so fortunate.

The truth is that I am ready to go back to the office. I miss the face to face interaction. I miss the non-work conversations that happen while in passing or in the kitchen. Of course it means getting up earlier, riding the subway, and having to put some thought into my clothes.

Readers, I would love to know your opinion. If you have been working from home, are you ready to go back to the office? Or are you content to stay in your home office?

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Merry Christmas!

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In Spite of Everything, I am Grateful This Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is the time of year in which we forget what we don’t have and remember what we are grateful. With everything going on this year, it is doubly easy to become negative and angry. But I choose positivity and I choose to look at what I do have.

To everyone celebrating, have a happy, safe, and delicious Thanksgiving.

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Welcome to the Tribe, Tiffany Haddish

When one thinks of a Jewish woman, the image that is conjured is usually that of Barbra Streisand or Fran Drescher.

One does not think of Tiffany Haddish.

A few weeks ago, Tiffany Haddish: Black Mitzvah premiered on Netflix.

The daughter of an African-American mother and an Ethiopian Jewish father, Haddish celebrated her fortieth birthday and embraced her father’s Judaism earlier this month.

I love that she is Jewish and she embraced her Judaism. I love that she reminds audiences that not all Jews look and/or sound like Barbra Streisand or Fran Drescher. We come from all parts of the world and speak as many languages are there are to speak. Some of us have lighter skin, some of us have darker skin.

Either way, we are all Jews and Tiffany Haddish is one of us.

Welcome to the tribe, Tiffany Haddish.

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Thanking Our Veterans

Tomorrow is Veterans Day.

As I see it, it’s more than a day to thank the men and women who have fought for our country. It is a day to see them and appreciate them.

I can only imagine how challenging it is to leave your family and put your life aside to defend this nation. It requires a commitment that dwarfs all other commitments. It means potentially going into battle in a land that is not your own to fight against a people that would happily see your nation destroyed.

To all of the veterans out there, thank you for your sacrifice. Without you, this great nation would not be what it is today.

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Thoughts On Independence Day

For most of the world, the 4th of July is just another day. But for the United States, is our Independence Day.

I am proud to be an American, in spite of our flaws. I am proud to live in a country in which my rights as an individual are respected. I am free to worship as I choose, to ask questions of my government and freely protest when I disagree with their actions. I am free to speak openly without fear of reprisal. This is the land of opportunity, a country in which someone who is born poor has the potential to die rich.

This is a land that opened her door and her arms to million of immigrants (including members of my own family) who were fleeing poverty, persecution and lack of freedom. This is a land in which generations of soldiers have fought and died for.

This is a land that after speaking of the ideals of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.We have and continue to right the wrongs of our past by protecting and opening doors to those who in past generations were denied because of who they were.

Happy Independence Day, wherever you are.

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To Choose or Not to Choose: That Is the Job-Hunting Question

In my 16-year career, I’ve learned two truths about job hunting. The first truth is that job hunting is an art, not a science. The second truth is that everyone and their mother is more than eager (whether or not we ask for it) to provide advice when it comes to job hunting.

Do you keep short term jobs on the resume or do you remove them? Do you keep the specific dates that you were at a job or do you just put the year? Do you apply to a job via the link on the ad or do you bypass the link and apply directly to company via email or physical mail? The answer to these questions often depends on whom you ask.

 Since graduating from college in 2003, I’ve had a few short blips of unemployment. During those times, I have looked to career coaches or career experts for guidance as I have looked for a new job. The problem is that every career coach or career expert has their own opinion as to how one goes about getting a new job. If I am to be honest, it is completely and utterly confusing. The advice that one career coach may give is likely to be the complete opposite of the advice that another career coach may give.

 One of the issues that has come up recently is the question of whether or not to have gaps on my resume. For the last few years, I have adhered to the idea that my resume must be gap free. Recently, I was advised that gaps in my resume were acceptable, especially given the golden rule that resumes (unless one is applying for a CEO or CFO position), must be no more than one page long.

 Due to restructuring, I am currently looking for a full-time job. Once more, I have had to wrestle with the question of what advice to follow in regards my resume and job-hunting methods. After a lot of soul searching and reading, I have come to the same conclusion that I came to the last time I was looking for a job: do what is right for you. The information a job seeker receives is not akin to a set meal that one must eat. It is akin to a buffet in which the job seeker has the ability to choose what advice and tactics works for them and their job search.

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Thoughts On Mother’s Day

Our mothers are amazing. They carry us until we are ready to enter the world. They feed us, they house us, they love us and they support us throughout our lives.

If I had to name one woman who I looked up to, it is my amazing mother, who can only be described as superwoman. Looking back, I don’t know how she did it and still does it today. She was part of the first generation to “have it all”: a career, a marriage and children. After working an eight hour day, she came home, made dinner, helped us with our homework, took care of other miscellaneous tasks before going to bed and repeating the same list of responsibilities the next day.

Some days, when I come home, the only thing I want to do is lay on my couch and watch TV, even when I know that I can’t. I don’t know how millions of women come home from work everyday and find the extra energy to take care of their spouses/partners and their kids instead of just saying f*ck it.

To all of the mothers in the world, both human and fur mothers, Happy Mother’s Day. For the endless and sometimes underappreciated work that you do, may you receive all of the love and appreciation that you rightly deserve.

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Words Can Hurt And Bullying Can Kill

Bullying in school has been around since the invention of school. Countless children over the generations have suffered at the hands of their classmates.

These days, in school bullying has been taken to another level by social media.

Last summer, Mallory Grossman was in sixth grade at Copeland Middle School in Rockaway, New Jersey. She took her own life after dealing with the persistent bullying she received from her classmates, both in school and online.

According to media reports, one of the accused bullies asked the young girl the following: “when are you going to kill yourself?”.

Some might argue that social media plays a role in the bullying that led to the girl’s decision to commit suicide. While I can certainly understand where that argument is coming from, social media is not entirely to blame.

If the bullying happened on school property and nothing was done by the staff to stop the bullying, the school is culpable. The blame is also on the parents of the bullies. Their children are responsible for this girl’s death and should be punished appropriately.

Two decades ago, I too was bullied in school. Thankfully, social media as we know it be today did not exist back then. Though it’s been years since my own experience of school days bullying, the scars still remain.

May Mallory’s memory be a blessing to those who knew and loved her. Wherever she is, the bullies cannot hurt her anymore.

RIP.

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