Domestic abuse is nothing new. It has unfortunately been part of the human experience since time immemorial. What is new is that if someone is accused of abusing their spouse or significant other, they could face jail time.
For the last month or so, the defamation trial of Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard has captivated both the press and the public. On Wednesday the verdict was announced. The jury ruled in favor of Depp.
The mere thought that this trial had to happen in the first place is disturbing. What I find downright scary is that because those involved are A-list actors, it becomes acceptable. Instead of the accused abuser having their day in court, they could turn around and sue the abused for defamation. This person is given an out instead of facing justice.
Though I have not been following the trial closely, I admire Heard. She is not just standing up for herself, she is also standing up for the millions around the country and the world who are in a similar situation.
As a defense, Depp claimed that his ex-wife’s claims ruined his career. That’s bullshit. He hasn’t made a decent movie in years. If his career is in the ditch because of his choices, he has no one else to blame. Adding insult to injury, Depp’s female fans and some victim’s support groups were extremely vocal in their support of the actor. While they have every right to their opinion, they should have at the very least, listened to the evidence supporting Heard’s case.
We all know that those who are being abused by their romantic partner often remain silent instead of speaking out. The question is, who is going to believe them, and more importantly, will they be able to go to the police and get the help they need?
New Yorkers are used to political scandals. It’s almost become a continuous headline in the morning papers when it is revealed that someone in politics is stepping down because of something they did that was not on the up and up.
Most, if not all of the accused are White and male. The newest name added to this dishonorable list is Eric Schneiderman, who stepped down today from his post of Attorney General of New York State. He is accused of domestic abuse and sexual assault by four women who he was romantically involved with in the past.
What makes me sick is that he claimed in the past to be a champion for women’s rights and used that platform while he was running for office. While he was talking about progress towards equality between the sexes in public, in private, he was just like any other man who abuses his significant other.
What we need (and I hope the right people in Albany are listening) is a woman in this position. A woman of color who has the qualifications and the experience to be New York’s top lawyer would be even better.
Unfortunately, with the resignation, there is one less person who is working toward getting you know who out of office.
The only light in this darkness is that it continues to send a message that domestic abuse and sexual assault and wrong and will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
Spousal abuse is a worldwide epidemic. The numbers are staggering.
In the United States, 3 women are killed every day by a current or former partner.
38,028,000 women have experienced domestic/spousal abuse in their lifetimes.
Women with disabilities are 40% more likely to experience abuse from their partners than women without disabilities.
4,774,000 American women will be physically abused by their spouses or partners every year.
The 2002 movie, Enough is about domestic abuse and one woman’s fight to protect herself and her child from her abusive husband.
Slim ( Jennifer Lopez) has just met the man of her dreams. Mitch Hiller (Billy Campbell) is everything she is looking for in a man. They do what many couples do and get married. But Prince Charming is not so charming. When Mitch becomes abusive, Slim takes her daughter, Gracie (Tessa Allen) and tries to hide with the help of an old boyfriend, Joe (Dan Futterman). When Mitch becomes relentless in his search for his wife and daughter, Slim knows that there is only one way to save them both: she has to kill her husband.
Is Jennifer Lopez the best actress in Hollywood? Not by a long shot. Is this the best movie ever made: No. But it does shed light on a subject that is sadly all too commonplace. One of the film’s redeeming qualities is that Slim does take a stand. Instead of cowering in the corner, she fights back. While this film is about one woman’s journey, Slim represents every woman who has ever been abused by their partner.