It’s easy to tell a lie. It’s harder to tell the truth, especially if the person who needs to hear the truth does not want to hear it.
Judge Judy (1996-Present) has been on the air for nearly a quarter of a century. Judy Sheindlin is a real life retired New York City Judge. Coming before her are real life small claims conflicts. Held in what looks like a real court room, Judge Judy hears both sides before making her ruling.
Though Judge Judy falls within the reality show genre, it’s far from the brain drain that is most reality shows. Judge Judy is a no nonsense, tell it like it is Judge, who does does not bend because the cameras are on her. Using logic and reason, she makes judgments that may not appeal to everyone, but make sense, given the parameters of the case.
The beauty industry is undoubtedly a powerful one. Women spend millions, if not billions of dollars ever year on anything and everything related to our physical appearance. But what message are we sending ourselves and our daughters?
Naomi Wolf’s classic feminist text, The Beauty Myth, examines the images that women are seeing in print and on screen. The average woman in America is 5’4 and 140 lbs. But the woman that we often see in the media is taller, thinner and appears to be physically flawless. Examining the image that the media projects, and constant pressure women are under to copy that perfection, Ms. Wolf devotes each chapter to the idealized image and the lengths that some women will go to become that idealized image.
This book was an eye opener for me. As women, we are so conditioned to focus on the outer appearance and not focus on who we really are that we don’t even realize that we are creating a self fulfilling prophecy. To quote Judge Judy, “Beauty fades, dumb is forever”.
Do you ever notice that women are usually judged by their looks?
An attractive woman is called something along the lines of a beauty or stunner.
An unattractive woman is called something along the lines of a dog.
Is it gratifying when someone, when a woman is told that she is attractive? Of course.
But to borrow a statement from Martin Luther King Jr., I would like to known for the “content of my character”.
I believe it was Judge Judy who said “Beauty fades, dumb is forever”.
There is much more to a person than just the external appearance.
While we as women have come incredibly far, we are still judged and valued for our external appearance.
Yes, it is hard to change 1000 years of thinking one way in only a few generations, but it’s time. If men can be judged for their intelligence and ability before their looks, then women should be judged the same way.