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Depression & Perfectionism: Failure is not an Option

Human beings make mistakes. It is a part of life, as much as we may hate it.

One of the harder aspects of depression (at least from my perspective) is perfectionism. In a nutshell, it is the ultimate desire to be perfect and the toll it takes to reach a goal that is forever unreachable. In my case (and I suspect in many others who suffer from mental illness), the unrealistic expectations create a negative emotional spiral, regardless of whether a mistake has actually happened.

It feels like failure is not an option and will never be an option. The only way to be is perfect, knowing full well that perfection is impossible. When a mistake is imagined, it could easily trigger an anxiety attack. When a mistake is real, it feels nothing short of life shattering. It’s as if we are unworthy of all the good things that life offers, unless we are perfect.

Perfect is one of the songs on Alanis Morissette’s ground breaking 1995 album, Jagged Little Pill. I can’t think of a better way to sum up the disease that is perfectionism.

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Almost 20 Years And Still Going Strong

20 years ago, producer Glen Ballard and singer/songwriter Alanis Morisette sat down to collaborate on Jagged Little Pill.  It has since sold more than 33 million copies and is one of my favorite albums of all time.

This album is nothing short of cathartic and real. Right Through  You is about fake people and seeing them for who they really are. You Oughta Know is still perfect song for when your significant other has left you for someone else. Head Over Feet is about falling in love.  You Learn is about falling down and then picking yourself right back up. Perfect is when you feel like you are not meeting the expectations of your elders.

This album got me through my teenage years and still gets me through the rough spots of life.

Thank you, Alanis Morisette and Glen Ballard for this amazing album. Even after 19 years, it is still my go to album when the emotions are swirling around my psyche and I need to express myself.

 

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