The inclination of a good parent is to protect their child from the evils of the world. But, at a certain point, protecting one’s child should be replaced by trusting that child and being able to have an honest conversation about difficult topics.
In music news, rapper T.I. has admitted that he goes to the gynecologist with his eighteen-year-old daughter to confirm that her hymen is still intact. In other words, he is checking if she is still a virgin. According to medical experts, having an intact hymen (or lack thereof) is not an indication of whether one is still a virgin.
There are so many things that are wrong with this story. Granted, his daughter is young and he is looking out for her. However, this story smacks of the idea that she is not a flesh and blood human being with dreams, faults, and ambitions. She is a thing to be owned. What also bothers me is that the two female hosts of the program did not call out T.I. on his sexist remarks.
I have to wonder if he took his sons to the doctor to confirm the same information. But then again, a boy’s sexuality is never questioned in the same way that a girl’s sexuality is questioned.
I’m not a parent, but I know enough to understand the difference between a concerned parent and a parent who crosses boundaries. This is clearly a case of crossing boundaries.